You didn't lose yourself.
You left yourself.
And you can choose to come back.
I'm Becky. I'm not on the other side of this. I'm in it with you.
About Becky
I started this business because I was so sick of drowning in my own flatness.
I absolute love my family and I have a really good life. And yet, for the longest time, every day felt a bit grey. Like I was just going through the motions- it felt like the curious, adventurous, proudly alive version of me had quietly left the building, without saying goodbye. Just waiting to see if I'd even notice.
I never lost myself dramatically. I slowly stopped choosing myself in a thousand tiny ways, every single day. I put everyone first- my kids, my husband, what other people needed, what other people thought. My own voice got so quiet I couldn't hear it anymore.
I know what it feels like to wake up and not recognise your own life. To love the people in it and still feel completely empty. To know something needs to change but have absolutely no idea how or where to start. That is exactly why I became a coach.
I'm not standing at the top of the mountain telling you how to climb it. I am deep in the trenches of self-abandonment with you. Choosing myself consciously, every single day, while building something I properly care about for the first time in years.
I'm Becky and I'm really glad you found me
The Choose Yourself Method
Most of us were never taught to choose ourselves. We were taught to be helpful, agreeable, manageable- to put everyone else first and call it love. Anything else was selfish.
The Choose Yourself Method is simple. Three steps you can use anywhere, any time, whenever you feel that familiar flatness creeping in:
Notice it. Something feels off. You’re grumpy, flat, overwhelmed, invisible.
Name it. This is a moment of self abandonment. I haven’t chosen myself today.
Choose yourself. What would choosing myself look like right now? Small and doable, just one thing.
That’s it. Not a dramatic overhaul. Just a daily practice of coming back to yourself.
What We Do Together
Two ways to work with me:
The Next Chapter — Four sessions that take you from not knowing who you are anymore to knowing exactly who you’re choosing to become. This isn’t therapy and it isn’t a quick fix. It’s four honest, focused conversations that will change how you see yourself. £395
Unstuck in 60 — One session. Sixty minutes. You arrive stuck in your own head and you leave with complete clarity on what’s keeping you there and exactly what to do next. £55